Eroticism is Best Served Bipolar

"The mystery of eroticism lies in the relationship between love and desire." -- Esther Perel

We've always been a firm believer that contrast is the key to a sexy and fulfilling romantic relationship. It's the tension between the sweet and the spicy, the safe and the dangerous, that ignites the flames of desire and keeps the love burning bright.

It's why men find tattoos and sundress on a woman so alluring? It's why do good girls love bad boys? It's the thrill of the unexpected, the thrill of a contrast. Ludacris so eloquently said “I want a lady in the streets and freak in the bed.” What you, me, and Luda may not know is that contrast is deeply rooted in the basics of eroticism.

We want a "lady in the streets", someone we can rely on, someone who represents safety, comfort, and dependability. But we also want a "freak in the bed", someone who represents excitement, adventure, and unpredictability.

We consciously strive to inject these two things into our relationship. On one hand, she never knows when I'll take her against the car on the side of the road or be tied up and unsure of what will be slapping her skin next. But on the other hand, she can always count on rose petals, wine, music, a hot bath, and genuine connection. A safe place. Love.

So why is this contrast so important? Well, for one thing, it keeps things exciting. When you know what to expect, things can get boring. By creating a gap between love and desire, we keep things fresh and exciting, always pushing the boundaries and exploring new territory.

But it's not just about the excitement - it's also about the trust. When you can rely on your partner to be there for you in every way, emotionally and physically, it creates a deep bond of trust and intimacy. By showing your partner both your sweet and your spicy side, you're saying "I trust you with all of me."

And ultimately, that's what it's all about - trust, intimacy, and connection. By embracing the contrast between love and desire, we create a space where we can fully explore ourselves and each other, building a relationship that's strong, exciting, and deeply fulfilling.

So if you're looking to inject a little more passion and excitement into your relationship, try embracing the contrast. Be the lady in the streets and the freak in the bed, and watch your love grow stronger than ever.