My Dearest Monogamy...

A heartfelt letter to Monogamy. It's not you, it's me.

I hope this letter reaches you in a moment of calm reflection, as I am about to embark on a delicate conversation that has been weighing on my heart. It is with a blend of gratitude for the time we've shared and a sense of determination for my personal journey that I put these words to paper.

Our journey together has been marked by commitment, exclusivity, and the deep bond that comes with monogamy. I want to express my sincere appreciation for the love and understanding you've brought into my life. The moments we've shared are not lost on me; they have shaped me, and for that, I am truly grateful.

However, as we navigate the intricate web of emotions, desires, and aspirations, I find myself standing at a crossroads. It's a challenging juncture, and it's important for me to share my feelings with the utmost honesty and respect.

In recent times, my heart has been drawn toward a different path, and I must admit I have met someone new, their name is Ethical Non-Monogamy (ENM). This feeling is not a reflection of any shortcomings on your part, dear Monogamy. You are, without a doubt, a good and loving companion. It's more about my need for a different kind of connection, one that aligns with certain principles that I hold dear.

Although it's tough to hear, I'm compelled to explain myself and my feelings. Since meeting ENM, I have encountered an environment that places a high value on open and honest dialogue. This is not a critique of our communication; you and I have shared beautiful conversations that have enriched our connection. Yet, I've come to realize that ENM fosters a unique space where partners engage in discussions that go beyond the conventional boundaries of relationships.

This isn't a dismissal of our communication but an acknowledgment of the potential for an even greater depth and understanding that lies beyond the confines of what we've had. When I'm with ENM, there is a freedom to openly discuss desires, boundaries, and emotions without the fear of violating traditional expectations. It creates an environment conducive to personal and relational growth.

Another significant aspect ENM introduced to me is the concept of freedom within commitment. Contrary to the rumors you've heard, ENM does not dilute the commitment between partners. Instead, they allow for a more expansive definition of commitment, one that transcends the constraints of exclusivity. I believe in the strength of our commitment, dear Monogamy, but I am drawn to the flexibility that ENM provides to explore connections with others.

Over the years I have held true to the the commitment we shared and never betrayed us. Now I must move on and evolve by acknowledging that love is not a finite resource, and it can be experienced and shared in various forms without diminishing its depth. I want you to understand that this decision does not diminish the value of the commitment we've built; it's a reimagining of commitment that aligns with the principles I hold dear.

You may be feeling Jealous. Jealousy is a complex and often challenging emotion that has touched our journey more than once. Within my new relationship with ENM, I've come to appreciate a mindset shift towards jealousy – not as a destructive force but as an opportunity for self-reflection and growth. While I acknowledge the inevitability of jealousy in relationships, I now encourage navigating it together with my partner, using it as a tool for introspection and a catalyst for strengthening our connection.

I'm not attempting to escape jealousy but inviting the exploration together with my partners, recognizing its potential to deepen our understanding of ourselves and each other. I believe this shift in perspective can profoundly impact the way we navigate challenges in any relationship, fostering a sense of security and compersion that extends beyond the limitations of my relationship with you, dear Monogamy.

My relationship with ENM is a sanctuary free from judgment. Our society often imposes rigid norms and expectations on relationships, leading individuals to feel stifled and judged for deviating from the prescribed path. When I hold hands with ENM, I yearn for the liberation that comes with being seen and accepted for the choices I make in my pursuit of happiness.

I want you to know, with the utmost sincerity, that my decision to leave is not a rejection of you or the love we've shared. It is an acknowledgment that our paths are diverging, and as difficult as it is to say, I must follow the path that aligns with my principles and aspirations. Please understand my decision is final and their is no chance for reconciliation.

As I embark on this new chapter, I do so with a heart full of gratitude for the foundation we've built. I know you will find someone who will treat you with kindness, love, and align with your values, Monogamy. I hope you can find it in your vast capacity for understanding to respect my journey with ENM. I am not leaving behind the love we've shared but rather expanding the boundaries of that love to encompass a broader, more nuanced understanding of connection.

With the deepest respect and gratitude,